Monthly Archives: June 2014


“You have a beautiful tattoo”, the cashier commented as Anna was checking out, “would you mind telling me about it?”

“Okay, if you really want to hear. “ Anna answered hesitantly

“Yes, I’d like to hear”, was her reply, “I am going on a break. I’ll meet you at Starbucks if you can wait just a moment?”

Anna waited patiently just outside Starbucks. Part of her wanted to share, the other part knew it would be tough but she was willing to just be able to tell the story.

As they both pulled chairs up to the table Anna wiggled uncomfortably.

“Are you sure you want to? It’s Okay,” she hesitantly asked.

It is a small lizard to represent my best friend Beth– it symbolizes that she’s always with me, just over my shoulder, to make me laugh and smile.” Anna paused to hold back tears threatening to spill out “it reminds me that life is short, love is deep, and loss is worth it.”


Anna looked down not wanting to make eye contact. “Yeah, she died in a motorcycle accident two years ago.” The hot tears escaped and made paths down her cheeks. It felt good to share, tough but good.

How many tattoos of the 36% of 18-26 year olds have tattoos to remember a loved one who died? I have run into quite a few. I do not know if it is just the kids I cross paths with or if this is common.

Do you know anyone who has a tattoo “in memory” of someone who died?tatoo - Mayry

Cheap beef Jerky

My Life Coach posed me a question which I have chewed on like cheap beef jerky for the last three weeks. “What do you want to be known for in five years?” I know that for some people looking five years ahead is as easy as planning what to have for dinner. Not so for me. I struggle with future plans like next month but after reading some archived blogs, journals, and messages I wrote to friends I found I do have a five year goal.

At breakfast I told a friend what I had formulated for my focus for five years, “To Bring the Light of Christ into the darkness of grief” She looked at me with a strange look and retorted, “Cari, you have been doing that for as long as I have known you.” Her comment affirmed for me that my focus for my five year goal is already being accomplished just by being me. I guess to broaden my goal is as Jabez stated in his prayer in  1 Chronicles 4:10 “Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, “Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory!”

So I to cry out “Lord, enlarge my territory” and he gave me “TATTOOED by Grief A handbook for walking with grieving teens” to get published as my first step into this new territory. With it brings the possibility of reaching more people bringing the light of Christ into the darkness of grief.