HOW TO DEAL WITH CHRISTMAS COUNTDOWN – THE FEAST

Christmas feastBefore I even sit down at the Christmas table my senses are overwhelmed by memories. Of our 5 senses the strongest memory keeper is smell. I can smell the ham with a brown sugar glaze just how my mother-in-law made it, The smells bring back the bitter sweet memories I have of helping her in the kitchen. The tears well up but I push them back, it is too early to get teary.

Gathering around the table which is decorated beautifully with red and green ornaments, and evergreen boughs tied in bright red bows we light three candles, one for each of my children who died over the last three years.

Bowing our heads in prayer we thank God for all the blessing we stop to light three candles. With his voice cracking with emotion my husband states “As we light these candles let’s share things we remember about Josh, Beth, and Chris.” Each child had a favorite scent or flavor. Josh loved cinnamon, Beth vanilla, and for Chris it was Monster drinks so we settled on citrus. I bought scented candles for each to burn throughout the day.

In the pause that follows I want to share but I cannot say a word for the tears have tightened my throat. Instead I reach into a bag I had brought and pull out three small animals. The first is a small raccoon Josh’s favorite animal, then a frog for Beth, and lastly a giraffe for Chris. I gently place these on the table and in my own way include them in our celebration.

I miss their smiles, hugs and laughter. I can’t keep back the tears but I have the assurance from God that someday we will again sit at a feast together, the wedding feast of the lamb.

Sitting down I first reach for my napkin to dry the tears then reach for Scott’s hand, the circle continues until all hands are held around the table. We bow our heads as Scott says grace over our meal.

Suggestions for the Holiday table:

  • Leave an empty seat, our loved one is gone but not forgotten
  • Scented candles for each family member who is no longer here
  • Stuffed animals to represent loved ones

Christmas is the celebration of Heaven coming to earth and the wedding feast a celebration after we enter Heaven.

What do you now do different with a loved one gone?

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About Cari Zorno

Cari is married to the love of her life, Scott. She the mother of 4 wonderful kids. Cari has traveled the road of grief more than once as over a period two and one half years she lost her son Josh at age 20, her daughter Beth at age 17 and her son Chris age 17 to tragic accidents. As these 3 children have adventures in heaven Cari is blessed to have her daughter Abby still walking this earth. Cari’s heart is to reach out to the brokenhearted with God’s tender touch. She has spoken to large and small groups sharing her heart and what God’s word says about trials. She with her husband Scott have led a number of GriefShare groups and is in the process of producing a TATOOED by Grief A handbook for walking with grieving teens.

5 thoughts on “HOW TO DEAL WITH CHRISTMAS COUNTDOWN – THE FEAST

    1. Cari Zorno Post author

      Thank you for your comments. Sorry for the delay in my reply
      I have had my head buried in writing “Tattooed by Grief: A Faith-Based Approach for Helping Youth Impacted by Loss” which was just released on Amazon
      I hope it will bring hope to the grieving.
      Blessings,
      Cari

      Reply
    1. Cari Zorno Post author

      Cyprus,
      Thank you for your comments. Sorry for the delay in my reply
      I have had my head buried in writing “Tattooed by Grief: A Faith-Based Approach for Helping Youth Impacted by Loss” which was just released on Amazon
      I hope it will bring hope to the grieving.
      Blessings,
      Cari

      Reply
  1. Cari Zorno Post author

    Thank you for your comments. Sorry for the delay in my reply
    I have had my head buried in writing “Tattooed by Grief: A Faith-Based Approach for Helping Youth Impacted by Loss” which was just released on Amazon
    I hope it will bring hope to the grieving.
    Blessings,
    Cari

    Reply

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